Going through a divorce means everything in your life is going to change at least a little. For some people, facing the first holidays since the split causes anxiety because of the many uncertainties.
You can do several things to make the holiday season a bit less stressful this year. Taking the time to evaluate what truly makes you happy is one of the most important things to do now. In the past, you had to consider your partner but you can focus on yourself and your children this year.
1. Grieve the changes
There are some holiday traditions that you won’t be able to continue this year. For example, if you enjoyed going to a holiday gala at your ex’s company, you won’t get to do that now. Allow yourself to grieve the changes that you’re dealing with but don’t let yourself get stuck in the sadness.
2. Set new traditions
Setting new traditions can be an incredible experience. If you have children, include them in the planning if the traditions will be with them. The traditions you set don’t have to be elaborate or expensive. They should be little things that everyone can look forward to each year. You can also set some of your own, which is important if the kids will be with your ex during part of the holiday season.
Even if your divorce is still in process, you’ll need to make a plan for this holiday season. Make sure that you’re not letting your emotions rule you right now. Working with someone who’s familiar with your circumstances and who can guide you through the divorce may take some stress off you.